Now that I have your attention with this title, I want you to put some real thought into my next words. Because truly understanding them could help you make real progress in getting what you want.

And then I’ll explain the M&M’s and the tampon machine.

A Helpful Example

Relationship Allegory – M&M’s From A Tampon Machine

(Like Blood From A Stone, Only With slightly Better Odds)

Let’s say you really want M&M’s. You wouldn’t look for them in a tampon machine. I suppose, in theory you could wait for that machine’s company to one day see your needs and start doling out M&M’s. You could also ask the person who stocks it to put M&M’s in it. So while you stand there wanting M&M’s to appear one day from the tampon machine, another, more expeditious approach to better your chances of getting what you want is to go someplace more likely to have M&M’s.

Sure, you may have to drive a little further and there’s a chance the first place you look will be out of stock, but at least you’ve taken appropriate action to improve your odds of getting what you really want.

The Point

Your dedication to believing that a situation or relationship will get better if you hold on long enough, or explain yourself more clearly isn’t doing you any good. All it’s doing is causing you to feel that you aren’t important enough to get what you want. And this will lead to all kinds of resentment and long-term issues.

So it’s time you stop looking to get what you want from something (or someone) that has proven it can’t give it to you. That’s not to say you need to walk away and never look back. You just have to understand that where you are looking isn’t the right place. At least right now.

Give yourself permission to deserve what it is that you want. This will give you the confidence to go out and look for it in places you’re more likely to find it.