Knowing Fear, Knowing Confidence

Knowing fear and uncertainty in life is completely normal. Actually, it’s so normal that many of us prepare for our day by figuring out how to defend against what we fear. Even though fear is highly undesirable, it has a foundation in what we know, beyond a doubt, is possible…and humans love predictability. So in…

Uncertain Is A Decision

What does it mean to “not know?” When you are uncertain about things in life, you have no frame of reference for “how” or “when.” So you “don’t know.” Because reality works in a funny way, saying “I don’t know” is a decision. Your decisions are established by what you know you can expect, and…

Versions of You

The more willing you are to observe the processes of your mind, the clearer it will become that there are versions of you. Each version could be called a “personality.” And each personality has its own specific wants and needs. Conflicting Versions of You Sometimes the needs of our various versions can conflict with one…

How to Choose

We over-think and fret over making decisions…making choices. But that’s because we’re focused on the options before us. The key to making the “right” choice does not begin with choosing between the options. It begins with knowing where it is you want to go. That’s what you need to decide, in order to make a…

Your Eyes Are Deceiving You

If you want to live a specific life, you must first explore your mind to find the thoughts you want. Because you’ve been thinking you want the things you see with your eyes…the things you hear others talk about. You may very well want those things, but you may also not. Your eyes, nor your…

Dare You

You already know, and accept that your mental state affects your body — again, think of the “stress headache.” So we know that our thoughts affect our physical wellbeing, and they also affect how we interact with the world around us. So, it’s really not hard to see that what you think about, you get….